A friend asked me how did I moved forward after losing both my parents: This is what I know.
Everyone is a hunter, some hurt for love, some hunt for independence or a sense of purpose, some search for the truth; we should be afraid of hunt whatever it takes us, whatever it makes us find what matters and keep hunting.
Death is the ultimate truth in life. It could come to anyone at any time. The sorrow it cast is always tough to handle. Losing a loved one, having to live life without them is the awful kind of change one could experience in life. There’s nothing worse than losing someone or something you care about, whether you’re going through a breakup or dealing with a family member’s death.
Moving on after the loss of any kind is never easy; in fact, it’s an understatement to say. The dealing with loss is painful, and it takes forever to heal; your life changes forever, but with a little effort, you can learn to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving; I heard some people say it gets better with time. Some say the pain of losing a loved one, either mom, father, sister, daughter, son, auntie, uncle, husband,etc. never fades away, never heals. You learn to live with it, and that’s what I believe.
I lost my parents at the age of 10 and 15 years old; I thought I would never be happy again, I felt my life would be over, but God has a plan for me. There are days when I throw myself around my apartment and staring out rain-streaked windows, and the tears still flow because they are gone, and I miss them, and some days my heart accepts that is their time, and God has called them for a greater purpose. Some days, I’m so confused and ask God, why? Then I tell myself that it will make sense one day, maybe someday the tears will stop flowing, just perhaps one day.
The tears, pain, sadness, and sorrow will disappear, and there will be fewer tears, less pain; you can breathe and smile again, that’s true. But you can never forget them; there will be days when you’ll miss them so much, and then the tears, the pain, and the sadness appear, but it’s less. Fewer tears, less pain, you can begin to smile more, you begin to pick up the pieces of what used to be your life.
The best thing we can do is honor the dead to accept the facts and move on when we can do so and hold on to the beautiful memories they left behind; some experts say that human life and relationships are gifts. These gifts should be cherished; some people say the best way to honor those we lost is to live and remember those who remain.
Keep moving, keep smiling, keep surviving, keep trusting, keep believing, glorify God. He makes all things possible, embraces the change, and keep a leap of faith. Cry, if you needed to, it’s a cleansing process, sometimes you have to smile through the tears and remember this storm shall pass.
Maybe you haven’t experienced a traumatic event in your life. Perhaps instead, you feel incredibly lonely. Just know, you are not alone, you are enough, you are loved, you are worthy, you are accepted, and you are wanted more than you can comprehend by a heavenly father that loves you more than any human ever could.
Psalm 147:3 says, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.’ we have to allow God to heal our hurt for us to fully embrace the right and perfect plan he has for our lives. Keep God in your life and pray without season.LOVE YOU ALL!!!
